Como estabelecer limites no seu ministério

APRENDA A RESGUARDAR SUA PRIVACIDADE

Em todos os lugares existem pessoas invasivas, gente que não respeita a privacidade e nem o limite dos outros.

Logo descobri que na vida ministerial também vamos ter que lidar com esse tipo de gente.

Com o tempo você descobre que um ministério respeitado é daquela que sabe resguarda seu espaço.

É importante lembrar que devemos sim,  determinar limites aos membros, às ovelhas e as pessoas que lidamos dia a dia no nosso ministério. Porém de uma forma educada.  Creio que aí está à diferença da mulher do altar respeitada para a barraqueira.

Existem mulheres do altar que estão adoecendo, pois pensam que por ser uma pastora ou missionária não possuem direito a privacidade. Alimentam também a ideia de que se determinarem limites vão acabar machucando alguém ou mesmo de que amar é deixar o outro fazer o que quiser.

Como Jesus é a nossa inspiração ministerial, podemos verificar que muitas vezes o Senhor,  teve uma conduta firme com aqueles que queriam ultrapassar os seus limites.

O Segredo é agir como Jesus: Firme e brando! Esse equilíbrio vai fazer com que as pessoas te respeitem sem se sentirem agredidas.

Veja esse exemplo onde o Senhor literalmente restringe a invasão de privacidade de Pedro na vida de João:

Quando Pedro viu aquele discípulo, perguntou a Jesus:

— O que diz Senhor, a respeito deste aqui?

Jesus respondeu:

— Se eu quiser que ele viva até que eu volte, 

o que é que você tem com isso? Venha comigo! 

Jo 21. 22

Já que estamos falando de limites,  é bem verdade,  que o fato de respeitarmos os limites dos outros,  facilita bastante entendermos e vivermos esse princípio.

Percebi que a maioria das mulheres do altar,  que frequentemente reclamam de ter seu espaço invadido,  geralmente também tem uma dificuldade de respeitar os espaços dos outros.

As suas credenciais ministeriais não te dão o direito de entrar na vida das pessoas sem ser chamada.  Pois o próprio Senhor Jesus, o Filho de Deus, o dono de tudo, não usa esse tipo de abordagem, pelo contrário, no livro de Apocalipse Ele diz: 

eis que  Estou à porta e bato, 

e se alguém abrir a porta

 Eu entrarei e com ele cearei.  

Ap. 3.20

O bater na porta é uma atitude educada. Uma atitude  que respeita o limite do outro.  Alinha-nos com o poder do Reino da luz, que é totalmente antagônico ao Reino das trevas, que trabalha com invasão, domínio e sujeição. Pense nisso!

LEIA MAIS

How to minister with anointing

He must increase, but I must decrease.”

John 3.30

We are bringing some strategies so that the women of the altar have a productive ministry and a lot of anointing of God.

Today I want to talk about who will stand out more on the altar, that's right, this is a very important question for the woman who wants to be greatly used by God in this generation.

The first step so that the glory of God is with you and so that your ministry does not become a word without any power is that you pay close attention to how you will go up on the altar to minister.

When a woman goes to minister she needs to be careful to all who want to draw more attention than the glory of God, including mainly her appearance up there.

You need to understand that when you go up to the altar you will be in a prominent position, all the people in the room will look at you, and that is the point of the matter, because when they look at you they need to see Jesus, you must be there just representing The Lord, that’s if is what you really desire; the glory of God to come upon you.

      All care is little in regard to your appearance on the altar, that’s because the Holy Spirit is sensitive and a small detail can ward off the glory and anointing of the Lord.

I do not want only to teach about how you should not go up to the altar in sexy, transparent or cracked clothes and necklines that show your body even though I believe this is such a basic rule for God's woman not only on the altar as everywhere outside his intimacy.

         In fact there are more subtle things that have prevented women from being used greatly, what is more dangerous are the things that Paul says, those that are lawful to me, but that does not suit me.

Women who go up the altar as if they had just come out of a beauty salon, and some of them have actually come out of a salon straight to the altar and minister as if they were godmothers of a wedding.

However you can argue that is not what matters, makeup is not sin, yes I agree fully, but I want to bring here an illustration to better demonstrate what I want to minister to your heart altar woman.

You have a high risk surgery to make, when you get to the hospital you get ready for surgery, a little nervous you wear the patient coat and when you get into the operating room there is your doctor with a scalpel in hand but detail, She is wearing a beautiful party dress, makeup, elaborate hairstyle, and huge rings on the finger.

You see, even if you're a stylish woman with good taste, you're going to feel at least a bit insecure about being operated on by a woman like that, aren’t you?

       See that every situation calls for a way to dress, it's amazing how many women know the appropriate clothes to go to for a job interview, go to an afternoon tea or even the right clothes to be in a wedding, yet when talking about the work of the Lord we are forgetting that the altar of the church is not a stage, a theater platform much less a fashion catwalk.

Women of the altar need to learn that lives do not go to church to see beautiful things and to appreciate the beauty and sophisticated way of people; they go to church because they really need a miracle, or an urgent action from God, needing a cure, crying out for supernatural help.

For this is what the Lord says:

Women who come near me must respect 
my holiness and should honor me.

Leviticus 10.3

Here is a tip woman of the altar: the day you minister try to be simple as you go up the altar of the Lord, respect the pain of people who are there for spiritual things, avoid exaggerated makeup, ostentation of extravagant clothes and shoes, large rings, striking nails, earrings that draw too much attention and let the glory of the Lord shine in your life and in your ministry.

  

      There were days when I went to minister in churches that were in celebration, I knew that there women would be with the right look, as a woman I also wanted to be produced, but the Lord always told me: do not forget that today you will go up on my altar, dress up appropriate to minister, whenever I obeyed the soft and sweet voice of the Holy Spirit he never left me alone at the altar.

When I talk about simplicity I am not telling you that you should go poorly dressed, wanting to pass a false appearance of humility, I am telling you to put on sober clothes, a basic makeup, accessories that will be only details and your hair needs to be discreet.

It is true that balance is important because any kind of excess comes from Satan and does not produce the works of the Holy Spirit.

LEIA MAIS

The Four Purposes of the Feminine Min in the Sentimental Life of Women

       Woman of God we are holding this year the 7th Campaign of the Alliance, the largest Meeting of Women in the Sentimental Life of Brazil!

The Alliance Campaign is for the woman who believes in the Lord's promise that says:

The Lord makes the lonely woman have a family. 

Psalm 68.6

In addition to believing the woman also hopes, because these words affirm that the Lord is who does things, it is not you beauty, your cunning, your money or even your efforts.

In this promise the Lord takes on the responsibility of making things happen, of bringing the right person or even of transforming something or someone so that his family is established.

It is important to remember that it was God himself who says that he is not a man to lie and not the son of man to repent of what he promises, but his promises are tied to a life of obedience, holiness and faith before the Lord.

Last year there were about 1,800 women gathered for the purpose of presenting their pains, frustrations and struggles in the sentimental life before the Lord.

      Another important action of this work, besides motivating women through their faith to hope to live a great love in God, is to undo works of witchcraft, sympathy, deceit that trap people in the sentimental life, some can never be happy, others see suddenly your partner change in a strange way and leave the family in these occult cases the result is incredible because the evil’s work is broken before the altar of the Lord thus providing restoration of marriages and single women who begin to see their sentimental life flow.

        The third focus of the Alliance Campaign is to address the character of the woman in relation to her relationships.

Leading her to the understanding that a wrong posture in life and in the loved one can prevent or even kill a great love.

Attitudes such as jealousy, exaggerated dependence, persecution, criticism, lies, lack of patience, and lack of care with the intimate relationship can lead women to have a loneness life.

    The fourth and final step of this important work for women throughout Brazil is the ability to change the character of a man through the power of prayer. The Lord Jesus says:

I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. Ezekiel 36.26

These words are strong and true and thousands of women have lived the experience of seeing the man they love turn out in an extraordinary way.

Men who were in the past: adulterers, addicts, some prostitutes, others dishonest, even those who were aggressive with the family pass through the faith of a woman who loves to become men of integrity.

LEIA MAIS

Woman, are you killing your man’s masculinity?

I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man. 

1 Timothy 2:12

Many women are facing serious crises in their relationships and there is no denying that most of these problems have their origin in the intimacy of the couple.

Sometimes when women come to talk to me about the situation of their marriage, the names of the guilty ones are already on the tip of their tongue: "it is my mother-in-law who gets into our lives" ... "it is his job because he does not have time for anything "..." it’s that friend who calls him to parties "and so on ...

However, it is not a simple coincidence that couples facing crises have for some time been living in a state of coldness in intimacy, in fact when the crisis comes, it only externalizes the detachment between a man and a woman in his bed.

Why does coldness comes to a relationship that began with so much attraction, so much desire to be together?

Well, routine and sameness are one of the causes that come first in our thinking, isn’t it?

Yet seeking God I perceived another deeper, perhaps even subtle, that no one notices but which only the Spirit of the Lord can reveal, which has happened to women and is literally destroying marriages.

It is the woman who leaves her role of wife and becomes the mother of her husband.

How does this happen? Simple, women who begin to control the relationship, this happens very subtly, first she starts to control the schedules, "you have to arrive such time at home" doesn’t that remind us of our mother speaking?

Then she begins to repeat that phrase: "Didn’t I warn you?" Didn’t I warn you not to sell the car, not to change jobs, not to make that trip ... so she starts to treat your husband as if he were a boy who does not know how to make choices.

       After some time they start scold each other. Just like our mother when we were children, the husband decides to share problems that are happening there in the company, to vent and suddenly she begins: "Do you know why this is happening? It is because you are not seeking God as before ... ".

And finally burst as charges. "You're not reading the bible," "aren’t you going to church today," "you never took me out me again," "to go to your mother's house you find time but to go out with your family ...".

     The charges are the last stage, when she begins to realize that the coldness has settled in the relationship and as a wife-mother wants to demand caring and attention, it is in this period that the man only stays close to his wife when it is strictly necessary, he begins to find things to escape from her like the television, computer, soccer game and some even use the church, because they prefer to always be in the church where they find peace, admiration and acceptance than at the home with his wife-mother.

These women’s attitudes reflect directly on the couple's bed, the sexual relationship begins to cool down in a frightening way and the intimacy becomes a must for both.

     

     In fact the bed is an extension of life as a couple and a woman who during the day is the wife-mother will certainly suffer the frustration of not being wanted at the time of intimacy.

God placed masculinity in the intimate part of the man who is strictly attached to his authority, if a man has his authority disrespected by a woman his masculinity is also automatically denigrated by her and the result is that he begins to have no more attraction for this woman as his wife.

How will a man desire a woman who is like his mother? For a man to desire a woman she needs to put herself in her position of companion, friend and helper.

    One of the characteristics of a woman who lives a wonderful intimacy with her husband is that she is an admirer, write there in her notebook:

An attitude that attracts a man is to feel admired by his mate.

And the Holy Spirit reveals that this is the cause of many men maintaining an extramarital relationship: at home he has his wife-mother who keeps everything under control and in the street he has his lover who admires him and who makes him feel like a real man.

Perhaps because of the anxiety to solve your life or the fact that you have a very strong personality you have left your position as a wife and occupied a position that is not yours, because of that you should respect your husband as a man and leader of your home and become his wife, his lover, his friend, finally his mate again.

LEIA MAIS

Your husband's success depends on you!

Series: One year to have a successful man

Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his

 seat among the elders of the land. 

Proverbs 31:23

    To understand how God thinks about marriage we have to go back there at the beginning of everything, in the first couple, Adam and Eve, remember when Jesus was asked about divorce? He said: in the beginning it was not so (Matt.19:8). Jesus was saying go back there at the beginning to understand how God wants things to work.

God first created Adam, and suddenly he began to observe him and realized that Adam walked a little sad then the Lord spoke a shocking word before creating the woman:

And the LORD said,

"It is not good for the man to be alone. 

I will make a helper suitable for him." (Gen 2:8)

The Lord God looked at Adam and saw that it was not good; it was not satisfactory for the man to live alone, and to create the woman he thought of someone who would help.

    Helping is one of the main reasons why God created woman, God acknowledged that although Adam was strong and perfect somehow he needed help.

God could have said it's not good for a man to live alone; I'm going to make him someone who is his lover, his girlfriend, his friend or even his life mate, but no! God decided to create a helper.

A married woman who does not understand the role that God has given her alongside her husband will never be able to enjoy a wonderful marriage.

Actually we women do not think like that when we get married:

God is giving me a man who needs my help.

We have the following expectation:

God is giving me a man who will love me, will take care of me, 

everything will be very romantic.

So when we find out that the man we marry is needy and needs help, otherwise he ends getting into trouble, we sort of disappoint.

      There are many women who also reject this helping role; they think it has no value. They want the leading role of the leader then when they marry, life as a couple becomes a relentless competition because she wants to occupy a position that God has not established.

There are also women who finds out that their man is needy and in need of help she simply takes his position in an attempt to help but she ends up being the man of the house and this destroys any relationship because he stops desiring her as a woman to admire her as a mother.

Well, I do not know what attitude you are living to this day in your marriage, but I want to motivate you to live the role that God has established in marriage, after all if it was he who created us and who invented marriage, for sure he has the knowledge to define who should be who in this story, right?

God says in his word:

"Woe to those who quarrel with their Maker, those who are nothing but potsherds among the potsherds on the ground. Does the clay say to the potter, 'What are you making?' Does your work say, 'The potter has no hands'? 

Isaiah 45:9

Every woman who rejects the instruction of God and wants to act in a contrary way established by him suffers serious consequences.

     However, you, the woman who discovered that in her own way did not work very well and that now wants to do in God's way and realized the greatness of being a helping woman, I want to tell you that your husband's success depends a lot on you.

Who is your husband? Rate him now

Is he an important man? Is he one of the main citizens of your city? He is a prosperous man, he is a man of integrity, perhaps even to society he is a successful man, but to you, in his intimacy he is an alcoholic, an addict or an adulterer.

Maybe he's a financial loser, an indebted, a dishonest man, a liar, a man with no expectation of the future.

     You know the model woman in proverb 31 says that her husband is one of the city's top citizens and she talks as if she knows he has that success because of her.

Woman of God you can also be a helper and declare like this woman:

My husband (name of his spouse) is one of the main citizens in the city of (name of his city).

Maybe you cannot even say these words because they seem impossible, but God's woman, you're going to close your eyes and believe in the impossible now and imagine your well-dressed husband, a prosperous man, a man of God in the church, let's go imagine, we women of God have the mind of Christ and we are not limited to what our flesh eyes are seeing, so imagine him a successful man and repeat with faith that prophetic word about his life.

My husband (name of his spouse) is one of the main citizens in the city of (name of his city).

This is the first step for your husband to be a successful man, you release this prophetic word about your life, prophesy this word throughout this year, because it will be in that year that God will change the luck of the man that you love.

LEIA MAIS